Suicide doesn’t kill people,Sadness does

 Anxiety! Sadness! Depression! To some these are words of discussion, to some they are merely words, to some they are words to mock but to some this is way of living. They live sadness, they are anxious and they gradually go into depression. Depression is Breaking-Down-the-Shame-of-Male-Depression-RM-722x406a silent killer, less understood much hyped.

 People have made it a word, so easy to use, little do they know it’s difficult to live. Depression is continual state of sadness, it’s a serious mood disorder. It effects how you feel , think and handle day to day activities. If the symptoms persist for at least two weeks it is better to talk about it.


Signs and Symptoms

If you have been experiencing some of the following signs and symptoms most of the day, nearly every day, for at least two weeks, you may be suffering from depression:

  • Persistent sad, anxious, or “empty” mood
  • Feelings of hopelessness, or pessimism
  • Irritability
  • Feelings of guilt, worthlessness, or helplessness
  • Loss of interest or pleasure in hobbies and activities
  • Decreased energy or fatigue
  • Moving or talking more slowly
  • Feeling restless or having trouble sitting still
  • Difficulty concentrating, remembering, or making decisions
  • Difficulty sleeping, early-morning awakening, or oversleeping
  • Appetite and/or weight changes
  • Thoughts of death or suicide, or suicide attempts
  • Aches or pains, headaches, cramps, or digestive problems without a clear physical cause and/or that do not ease even with treatment

Most of the people feel that they have partnered with these symptoms, they get well adjusted to these and feels comfortable being depressed. Little do they know that depression is a virus, a rust which kills you daily.

Types of Depression:

  • Persistent depressive disorder (also called dysthymia)is a depressed mood that lasts for at least two years. A person diagnosed with persistent depressive disorder may have episodes of major depression along with periods of less severe symptoms, but symptoms must last for two years to be considered persistent depressive disorder.
  • Perinatal depression is much more serious than the “baby blues” (relatively mild depressive and anxiety symptoms that typically clear within two weeks after delivery) that many women experience after giving birth. Women with perinatal depression experience full-blown major depression during pregnancy or after delivery (postpartum depression). The feelings of extreme sadness, anxiety, and exhaustion that accompany perinatal depression may make it difficult for these new mothers to complete daily care activities for themselves and/or for their babies.
  • Psychotic depression occurs when a person has severe depression plus some form of psychosis, such as having disturbing false fixed beliefs (delusions) or hearing or seeing upsetting things that others cannot hear or see (hallucinations). The psychotic symptoms typically have a depressive “theme,” such as delusions of guilt, poverty, or illness.
  • Seasonal affective disorder is characterized by the onset of depression during the winter months, when there is less natural sunlight. This depression generally lifts during spring and summer. Winter depression, typically accompanied by social withdrawal, increased sleep, and weight gain, predictably returns every year in seasonal affective disorder.
  • Bipolar Depression is different from depression, but it is included in this list is because someone with bipolar disorder experiences episodes of extremely low moods that meet the criteria for major depression (called “bipolar depression”). But a person with bipolar disorder also experiences extreme high – euphoric or irritable – moods called “mania” or a less severe form called “hypomania.”

Not everyone who is depressed experiences every symptom. Some people experience only a few symptoms while others may experience many.

Familial Support:

902afba9ef0a24951883bab0c0292360--fighting-depression-quotes-depression-and-anxietyFamily support is must for depressed patients. They need to understand that sadness is not their choice, it’s the way they have become. Questioning them, not trusting them enough, mocking fun at the them, lecturing them will only make them more vulnerable.

Depressed people have guilt; guilt of being less of others, guilt of not doing enough and hopelessness of future.

If they open and they are not being understood they lose all the zeal to do it again. They would have mood swings, they would be irritable, they would be difficult to live with. But they don’t have control over it.

If you feel you can’t handle it, motivate them to go for counseling. Don’t stigmatized.

Professional Help

Several types of psychotherapy apart from medication can help people with depression.

Talk Therapy

Talk therapy is not just “talking about your problems”; it is also working toward solutions. Some therapy may involve homework, such as tracking your moods, writing about your thoughts, or participating in social activities that have caused anxiety in the past. You might be encouraged to look at things in a different way or learn new ways to react to events or people. 

Cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) is a short-term, goal-oriented psychotherapy treatment that takes a hands-on, practical approach to problem-solving. Its goal is to change patterns of thinking or behavior that are behind people’s difficulties, and so change the way they feel.

Rational emotive behavior therapy (REBT), previously called rational therapy and rational emotive therapy, is a comprehensive, active directive philosophically and empirically based psychotherapy which focuses on resolving emotional and behavioral problems and disturbances and enabling people to lead happier and more fulfilling lives.

Brain Stimulation Therapies

If medications do not reduce the symptoms of depression, electroconvulsive therapy (ECT) may be an option to explore. Based on the latest research:

  • ECT can provide relief for people with severe depression who have not been able to feel better with other treatments.
  • Electroconvulsive therapy can be an effective treatment for depression. In some severe cases where a rapid response is necessary or medications cannot be used safely, ECT can even be a first-line intervention.
  • Once strictly an inpatient procedure, today ECT is often performed on an outpatient basis. The treatment consists of a series of sessions, typically three times a week, for two to four weeks.
  • ECT may cause some side effects, including confusion, disorientation, and memory loss. Usually these side effects are short-term, but sometimes memory problems can linger, especially for the months around the time of the treatment course. Advances in ECT devices and methods have made modern ECT safe and effective for the clear majority of patients. Talk to your doctor and make sure you understand the potential benefits and risks of the treatment before giving your informed consent to undergoing ECT.
  • ECT is not painful, and you cannot feel the electrical impulses. Before ECT begins, a patient is put under brief anesthesia and given a muscle relaxant. Within one hour after the treatment session, which takes only a few minutes, the patient is awake and alert.

Psychotherapy can help you: 

  • Understand your illness 
  • Define and reach wellness goals Unknown
  • Overcome fears or insecurities 
  • Cope with stress 
  • Make sense of past traumatic experiences 
  • Separate your true personality from the mood swings caused by your illness 
  • Identify triggers that may worsen your symptoms 
  • Improve relationships with family and friends 
  • Establish a stable, dependable routine 
  • Develop a plan for coping with crises 
  • Understand why things bother you and what you can do about them 
  • End destructive habits such as drinking, using drugs, overspending or unhealthy sex. 


Preaching’s doesn’t help, Talking Helps

Sympathy doesn’t help, Empathy does

Suicide doesn’t kill people, sadness does

  Help people Help Themselves

 Dr Reena Bhansali

Counseling Psychologist

Please follow and like us: